Do you discipline your children with a rod? What did the bible verses mentioned about child discipline and training a child?
As a mother of a young schooling boy, it pains my heart to use a rod on him. However, using the rod for child discipline is a must. I must admit now that the mere mention of "Mr. Cane" to my son, gives rest to my soul.
Yes, there are times of striving and internal struggle within myself as a christian parent. I am not a perfect parent nor can I be one. That is why I need the grace of God to bring up my child in a godly manner.
Coming from a conservative family, I have been brought up under the rod and I'm glad the Bible shares the same view as I do. I do, however, remind myself not to mention the rod too often as it may have adverse effects when he is much older.
Have you ever told your children, "This is my last warning. If you do not start to pack up your toys by the count of 5, I am going to cane you." ?
Did your last warning or last time ever arrived?
My son knows I mean business. When I say "this is my last warning"and coupled with that tone of voice which tells him I will do what I say, he better get down to business!
It's interesting to know that for some parents, their last warning is never the last. There is always a "one last time" and then "one last time" again and again. The child may get confused and wonder "Hey! When is mom's one last time going to come? Well, I guess, she doesn't mean what she says anyway."
So as parents, let us mean what we say and say what we mean. Let us walk the talk and talk the walk. It is easier said than done that is why we need the grace of God to discipline our child. We need the Holy Spirit to guide us in all that we do, in words or in action.
Each of us has at least one love language. Do you know yours? How do you know which one is your love language?
Which love language fills up your love tank the most?
There you have it! The one language that fills up your love tank is your main love language.
How about your child? Do you know your child's love language? Our children's love languages may or may not change over the years. My child's love language is not receiving gifts. That is secondary love language for my boy. My son's two main love languages are hugs, kisses and quality time. He does go cranky if I do not devote enough time for him.
Whenever his love tank is low, I will always affirm my love for him in his main love languages. I realised that once his love tank is filled up, it is much easier for him to do the things that he finds it hard to do earlier.
If you do not yet know the five love languages of children, Gary Chapman's book "The 5 Love Languages of Children" is an excellent read.
Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.
Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; The rod of correction will drive it far from him.
Do not withhold correction from a child, for if you beat him with a rod, he will not die. You shall beat him with a rod and deliver his soul from hell.
The rod and rebuke give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.
Correct your son, and he will give you rest; Yes, he will give delight to your soul.